Healing Inherited Family Trauma

An effective way to break inherited patterns of chronic illness, relationship difficulties, and financial blockage.

If you’re on this page, you must have worked a lot on yourself, and still, you may feel something fundamental is unseen.

What if –
your depression, anxiety, fears, phobias, obsessive thoughts, and physical symptoms were not yours in the first place?
What if they belonged to your parents or grandparents, and you only had them so that you can heal them, for yourself and future generations?

It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you.

Mark Wolynn, author of It didn’t Start with You

When I first heard this sentence, a deep sigh came out by itself, from somewhere deep within.
I started to connect the dots between my own struggles with that of my family members.
That rabbit hole is so mysterious, astonishing, illuminating, and relieving!

Not only was my IBS, eating disorder, and anxiety disorder starting to fade away, but I also got enormous nourishment from my parents and ancestors ever since, every day, wherever I am.

It’s definitely one of the most effective way of healing.
I’m not talking about years of therapy.
I’m talking about one intensive 2-hour deep-dive session.
That’s enough for me and many of my clients to experience all the fundamental shifts.

That drove me to study with Mark Wolynn, with his Core Language Approach to healing inherited family trauma. With this technique, you’ll get a lot of clarity, and you’ll feel things internally and externally finally fall into place.

You will feel finally at home.
Both in a sense of reconciling with the family you were born in (no matter how much resistance you may be feeling right now), and of feeling home in your own body, belonging to yourself, whenever, wherever.

Background Research for the Session

Below are some family history questions to consider before the appointment. You may need to do a little research by asking your parents or other family members. Don’t worry if there are answers you can’t get. Whatever you discover will be enough. You’re welcome to submit your answers in advance of the session.

In the session, we will examine the last three generations’ tragic events, as they shape the residues carried in the family. One of the things we look for is the way our family history affects us that we may not be aware of.

Who died early?
Who left?
Who was abandoned, isolated, or excluded from the family?
Who was adopted or who gave a child up for adoption?
Who died in childbirth?
Who had a stillbirth, miscarriage, or abortion?
Who died by suicide?
Who committed a serious crime?
Who experienced significant trauma or suffered a catastrophic event?
Who lost their home or possessions and had difficulty recovering?
Who suffered in war?
Who died in or participated in the Holocaust or some other genocide?
Who was murdered?
Who murdered someone or felt responsible for someone’s death or misfortune?
Who hurt, cheated, or took advantage of someone?
Who profited from another’s loss?
Who was wrongly accused?
Who was jailed or institutionalized?
Who had a physical, emotional, or mental disability?
Which parent or grandparent had a significant relationship prior to getting married, and what happened?
Was someone deeply hurt by another?
Did something traumatic happen while your mother was pregnant with you?
Was she highly anxious, depressed, or stressed?
Were your parents having difficulties in their relationship during the pregnancy?
Did you experience a difficult birth?
Were you born prematurely? Forceps?
Did your mother experience postpartum depression?
Were you separated from your mother shortly after birth?
Were you adopted?
Did you experience trauma or separation from your mother during your childhood or infancy?
Did your parents go on a vacation when you were young?
Were you sent away to visit relatives or grandparents?
Were you or your mother ever hospitalized and forced to be apart?
Did your mother experience trauma or emotional turmoil during your childhood or infancy (death of a parent, grandparent, or sibling, separation or divorce, etc.)? Did your mother give away a child, or lose a child or pregnancy before you were born?
Was your mother’s attention pulled to a trauma involving one of your siblings (a late-term miscarriage, a stillbirth, a death, a medical emergency, etc.)?

Most importantly, I’d like you to form a sentence or two about your worst fear.
If your life suddenly fell apart, what’s your worst fear?
What’s the worst thing that could happen to you?

It can be in a sentence like “I will…” or “they will….”
This is probably a feeling that’s been with you your whole life.
The answer to this question is key to your healing.

Preparation for the Session

We can do it either in person or online. If you’re home, please prepare the following items for the ceremony at the end:

  1. One heavy object, like a kettlebell, a bag of rice, or a heavy vase
  2. Three long scarfs, or any yarn/rope

Please be in a room that’s not disturbed for at least 2 hours.
Prepare enough water for yourself to drink during the session.
Tissues – a good cry is very likely, and that’ll be very nourishing for you.


Mentally: The willingness to look into your family history, and an open mind;

Financially, I use sliding-scale pricing so as to make it accessible and sustainable.

Annual income
< 20,000 euro

300 euro

Annual income
20,000 -50,000 euro

500 euro

Annual income
> 50,000 euro

700 euro

(All price includes VAT for individuals and excludes VAT for business)

Time: 2 hours in the session, and ideally a few minutes every day in the coming months.


“I already felt rejuvenated at the end of the session. On the second day, I restarted the writing that I had procrastinated on for months! I don’t even want to look at the screen all the time anymore. My life slowed down in a joyful way. Thank you Jingshu so much for helping me unstuck!”


“Super grateful – I got to face the vague, unreasonable fears that I’ve been running away from. I rekindled my love for my father, which feels like a reset for my whole life.

I cried so much during the session. I felt lighter and more nourished after.”


“I realized that I’ve been carrying my mother and grandmother’s feelings and expectations all these years. No wonder I feel so tired, inauthentic, and unhappy.

Setting boundaries with family, and letting go of the entanglement… I knew, but easier said than done. The ritual we did in the end really made it possible.”